Unteachable Lessons

Unfortunately when we were born, life didn't come with a rule book. Although I'm pretty rebellious, I will admit that having a rule book may put my mind at ease when it comes to a few things. One of them being how to master patience. Its like I have multiple conversations with myself a day telling myself I need to have it , trying to convince myself that I know the steps in order to achieve it, but really I do not have the slightest clue. If you're anything like me, then your strongest battle is between being indecisive and impulsive. I am very indecisive when it comes to what I want to eat, what I want to wear, how I want my hair. I am very impulsive when it comes to my feelings, my reaction and my words at times. Being impulsive can symbolize strength, sureness and readiness, but being impulsive can also lead to destruction because even though we feel like we know, sometimes we don't and the result will show that we need to slow up our pace. The perfect example of this is relationships, whether it be your mom, your significant other or a best friend. When dealing with someone else it will always require patience. When seeking or pursuing something, it will always require patience. If you were to get into a heated argument with someone you care about right now, your impulse can drive you to say things you don't mean. At the start of it all, our emotions may take over and cloud our minds with things we may think we want, but later when we think back on it, we understand that maybe we didn't want that after all. This is when patience comes in because patience is the very thing that may drive us crazy, but will always steer us to exactly where we are meant to be. By that I mean, during the process of being patient, you may experience anxiety, you may feel overwhelmed, none of which feel good. But imagine if you were to wait and think before you act, just how much trouble and turmoil you may save yourself from making one quick yet impactful decision.

Patience is not easy to gain. At all. But patience is one of those things that if you want it, it is very much so achievable. You have to train yourself, be self aware and very self cautious. You have to talk to yourself, get in your brain before your hands can move and your tongue can speak. It is indeed a skill although it cannot be taught. No blog, no counselor or person for that matter could possibly teach you the skill of patience. In fact, the only person who can teach this skill is yourself. No one knows you better than you and with patience being an extensive lesson, the best way to gain it is by being more in tune with yourself.

This is why self-love and self awareness is a necessity. Because if you are not comfortable, in control and able to understand yourself, you will never be able to possess the skill of patience. For patience, takes a lot of "me-time" and a lot of honesty with yourself.