Set the Bar

Don't get it confused, everything you have to offer deserves to be given to those who deserve it. We're all limited edition, not one person is the same. What one person offers, is not the same as what you offer, which is the beauty behind being stingy with all of your time and energy.

Not sure what went wrong, but it seems like all guys expect things to be given with no real work... or is it just me? Let's argue. Taking a girl out on a date, buying her food, hitting her up every morning, yea these are all simple things girls love... I think they caught on to us because they think that's all it takes... wrong! Sorry, Twitter may have told you that's the way to a girl's heart, but I can guarantee none of that matters if it isn't consistent and real.

Hey guys, taking her out to dinner does not mean she is obligated to have sex with you. Telling her good morning does not make her obligated to be loyal to you. Buying her food does not make her obligated to drop everything she's doing just because you called for her. All this means is that you've expressed that you like her, but let some time go by, if you don't stick around because you're not getting what you want... you didn't care that much. Real intentions show with time and a lot of tests that may consist of not getting your way for a while. The real prize guys, is finally being able to get whatever you want after a while of her testing your true intentions.

Women are sometimes broken from previous situations. It's not easy to go from a heartbreak to just trusting again, especially if nowadays when getting played happens like clockwork. It may sound like a lot of taking and no giving until your comfortable, but let's be real, guys don't have a squeaky clean image that makes girls feel open to do things. A lot of cheating, infidelity and scheming is broadcasted on social media and television all the time, so how can you not be paranoid?

As women, we have to set standards, for ourselves and for the people we let into our lives. Without standards, we fall for anything which I think is another issue today. There's so many people who's willing to do whatever with whoever that when a guy comes across somebody who isn't they get disrespectful, they get mad and they lie. Having standards is like putting breaks in a car, speed bumps in a road, it just monitors everything to make sure everything is being done the right way. Women not only need standards, but we deserve them, we deserve to get everything we ask for. We deserve a date, food and so much more without being expected anything in return. We deserve for our doors to be opened without a guy feeling entitled for something back. We deserve to be treated nicely without it being thrown back in our faces as a favor (fyi: a favor is something you ask for, not something you were offered, but I digress). As women we face degradation, belittlement and many challenges. There are some aspects in life still where we are not equal or even thought of being equal. Guys, be real, be honest, be genuine and be her peace or its real simple... leave her alone (and step aside, so somebody who actually wants to do it, can do so).