What About Your Friends?

Friendsssss, how many of us have them? When we were younger it started with 10, now I can count on one hand how many people I would give that title to. Some people still don't understand, that it's really levels to this. You have associates, friends and best friends. Not everyone you come in contact with is considered a friend, not everyone you come in contact with serve the same purpose as each other. For example, you may have a friend that hates going out, so much to the point that when they are out, they just stand on the wall and act anti-social, but that same friend also gives you the best advice. That friend may be a good listener, but not a good hang out buddy and that's fine.

I personally have a few best friends, ones that know the ins and outs of me. Whether that be everyday stuff or if I knew them for so long that they are considered family. I've had a couple people question "why do you have so many friends?" Is there honestly an answer to that? Some people just come in your life and do not leave, they never switch up and only one phone call away. Some people may be happy to have one, but I'm lucky to have a few that I know would do whatever for me.

Just like everyone else, there has been some friends that I've had, that I am no longer close with. For whatever reason that may be, we've all had those friendships that just didn't make it to the peak of our lives. Which is also cool.

A friend is defined with many words and phrases. Everyone has their own requirements for their friends. There is no book saying how many you can have, there is no book stating what is considered a friend, there is no contract obligating anyone to stick around. Just like life happens, friends are included in that and they happen too... or not.

Everyone needs a friend! Someone to confide in and talk about things that they can't talk to just anyone about. If you think you don't, try just venting to someone you trust one good time and see how you feel after.

Don't get it confused... a friend is definitely hard to find. Someone you can trust, talk to, hang with, tell your personal business to, that's not a description of someone you pass just walking down the street. Sometimes it takes fights, tears, laughs and some more stuff to really be sure that that is your friend and you genuinely have a bond with that person. All of my friends and I have moments where we don't talk or we have a difference in opinions and we take breaks from each other. How do I know its real? When we are able to bounce back and mutually understand it'll never be that deep to stop being friends over.

Friendships are special. These are the people, other than your family, who will carry on your legacy. These are the people who you can confide in and hear honest advice from. These are the people who want the best for you and want to see you grow, they also want to grow with you. These are sacred people, people who earned this title. While friendship seems so simple, it's so complex because while you go through life changes, so do other people and it can either bring you together or apart. But real friendships may bend, but they never break.