Dear diary...

December is amongst us... which means #holidayszn! This month is all about journalizing. I preach all day about what's needed, but seriously this right here is therapeutic. There are many ways to get your feelings out in effective ways, but writing and journalizing is the best way to vent and to look back as a reference for your growth in my opinion.

We've all may have or may not have been that type of girl who vents on social media. You know like, tweeting song lyrics that relate to how you feel so bae can see them and get mad, or posting a meme on snapchat so that bae can see it and respond. Yeah, those are sometimes cool if you know your intentions behind them, but essentially it's so much better to write it down, vent, process and think everything out. That way, when you go in for your rebuttal you have all your facts straight. Kind of like how it seems easier to argue through a text than in person, because you have time to think it out and make sense of it all... same concept.

Aside from that, journaling is just a nice release. Like I said, it helps you sort out and think everything through. It's personal and intimate. It's also a nice outlet for you to be brutally honest with yourself.

I take this blog as a journal for me. Only difference is, mine is public. Before this, I was that social media girl. I mean I know my followers had to be annoyed watching 10 snaps of memes just so that one person would see it and hopefully pick up on the message. Doing so only left an opportunity for others to chime in on my business, voice/form an opinion and relay the message in the wrong way.

That same feeling you get when you vent to someone, journaling acts as the same reliever. Some people may read this and say "who has time for that?" but I promise you after you write it all out, you'll feel 10x better. Just releasing all of those thoughts from your mind takes a load off of your shoulders.

Those times where I vented to someone who didn't care or I took to social media and let the whole world in on my issues, I wish I resulted to journaling. I am personally a very private person. In some cases it's good, in some cases it's bad, but in all cases it never hurts to just have real conversations with yourself and allow yourself the opportunity to figure it out... for yourself. No one has the answers to everything. When you go to your bff for advice on your relationship, when you go to your mom for advice on how to save money or when you go to the guidance counselor and ask their opinion on college, no one knows how these experiences will personally effect you. They can only tell you from their point of view. Who's to say that how they went about certain situations, will work for you too? They can't. Journaling can help process things so that you can possibly resolve them yourself. Facing your own feelings, writing them out, reading them over again and allowing yourself the time to process can be a resolution.

Other ways to vent or let off steam:

* If you're artsy, you can write a song

* If you're crafty, you can paint/draw how you feel

* If you're athletic, you can go for a jog/run

* If you're undecided you can take a walk, have a seat in some nice scenery to regroup or do some yoga

Anything, that helps you not expose your feelings in the wrong way or to the wrong people is suggested, but journaling is honestly a good way to keep record of your feelings. After years or months of you journaling you can use it as a reference to where you were, how far you have come and where you want to be. Besides, it's all about growth right?

Happy Holidays "It" girls and don't forget to ask for a cute journal for Christmas!

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