I know, you don't have to tell me...

Wassup November! How's the letting go and healing coming along? Still letting go and healing huh? Well I have another task for you. Let's practice, acknowledgement. This is kind of broad because what are we acknowledging? Well, there's a lot to acknowledge. Acknowledge your faults, acknowledge that there is something wrong, acknowledge that there is work to be done, just be knowledgeable. Acknowledgement is really the first step to any and everything. How do you know something needs to be done without first acknowledging it?

Sometimes we like to play dumb. Yes, I said it, dumb. We know it's a problem, but we ignore it. Just like we know we didn't get up to go to class yesterday which is why we received a 0 on the in class assignment, but we would rather pin blame on the professor and not ourselves. Acknowledgement. Without it, we constantly find a new person to blame (cues blame game x Kanye West).

Ask me why me and my ex broke up? A year ago I would have probably said "he was immature". Ask me now why we broke up? Why'd you guys break up?  Thanks for asking! Because I wasn't ready for a relationship. I was too young and too naïve. See how easy it is? Acknowledging this helped me see what I needed to fix for myself in general and for whenever I get into a relationship next. Now I am more mature, a little wiser and so much smarter that when certain things happen I am in full control and am 100% aware of all I need to do.

Acknowledging is not only the mature thing to do, but it is also helpful for yourself. Without knowing what the problem is, you won't know what to fix or how to grow. 9/10 our arguments stem from miscommunication or not acknowledging our contribution to things.

Since we're here, sidebar, communication is key as well! The tone in how you present things are key too! Guys, just because she is expressing herself does not mean she is arguing! "It" girl's, just because you're on your period doesn't mean he's made of steel and you can say whatever and there won't be any consequences, ACKNOWLEDGE where you went wrong too.

This may come in your healing process. Being able to pick out what you did wrong and really dissect a situation to be able to determine how you should react. Or if how you already reacted was good or bad. Even creating a list and writing things out to process it better is a suggested thing to do. Do whatever it takes to at least just be able to reference exactly what it is you are going through.

Everything will seem so clear. You'll be able to gain your own stance. You'll be able to stand firm. With this you'll really be able to do anything, because after you figure out how you feel, everything else will fall into place. Be mindful that just because this is how you feel, it does not mean that everyone will always agree. Analyze it from every angle so that way, no matter good or bad, you will be okay. And trust me, you will be okay.